“It’s not you, it’s me!” or Breaking Up with Your Project

April 7, 2014 at 8:35 pm 3 comments

Break ups happen in life. I recently realized that a break up was necessary in my life. My Cassis Sweater was not working out.

I call this one, It’s not you, it’s me. Here is what happen…

Breaking up with Cassis

  1. I started with a pile of beautiful PDS Worsted yarn in Fireweed.
  2. I cast on and began to knitting along with all the other KAL participants.
  3. I take the Cassis off the needles in preparation to frog it.
  4. The current state of the relationship between me and the yarn.

So what happened between #2 and #3? I cast on and immediately thrilled with the yarn itself. But somewhere around the place where you finish the shoulders, I began thinking. So I set the sweater aside and worked on other ongoing projects. Then I picked it back up and finished up the shoulder increases minus one set. Then I set it down again. It was here that break up was being to brew. I keep looking at it sitting there by my chair and I was just feeling less and less love as the days went on. I really wanted this yarn in a sweater that I would wear. So that lead me to ponder, what was making me think that the Cassis was a sweater that I would not wear? Then it hit me, it was the front. While I love to think I would wear an open front cardigan that drapes, I know that I won’t. I prefer my cardigans to have closures. I don’t always wear them closed. I just like the option. It took a few more days for me to actually take the sweater off the needles and re-ball the yarn. I even started a totally new project in there. But it had to done.

So sorry Cassis cardigan in PDS Worsted, it really wasn’t you, it’s my preference for cardigans that can be closed.

Other reasons you might break up with your project.

Honestly, honey, this just isn’t working. aka We aren’t very compatible. We are just too different.

This is where you are trying to force a yarn and project together and they just don’t work. Maybe the gauge is all wrong. The yarn knits up too stiff. The project just looks horrid in variegated yarn. Any way you look at this project, you think this just isn’t going to work. Just stop, put down the needles or hook and frog that project. Better luck next time, now you are smarter and can find a more suitable yarn for the project and a more compatible project for the yarn.

It’s you, not me!

This scenario occurs when you either dislike working with the yarn or the pattern. This may be apparent early on, so you stop and set it aside to occupy your needles. Often in this situation, this particular type of project will get frogged when you need the needles for another project. But it could be later on when you realize that you just don’t like how the chart is written, the instructions are confusing or the yarn keeps splitting on you. Again, stop and frog. If you really dislike the yarn, it isn’t likely you will find another project for it. This is when you give to someone else who wants to have a relationship with it. In terms of people, you don’t normally recommend to your friends that they date the person you  just broke up with, but it is okay with yarn. Just let that confusing, frustrating pattern go.

None of my friends and family like you and their feelings are very important to me!

This one is about that project that you hope to gift to someone. You might be okay with the project but the more you think about it, the more you realize the intended recipient is never going to wear it. It could be the color, the fact they never wear hats, or that they live in a very warm place and do not need woolen mittens. So here you have two choice. You can finish the project and give it to someone else, avoiding the break up. Conversely, you can admit that while you very much like the yarn or project for that person, you just need to re-work it. I have a project like this sitting in my WIP basket. It is nearly done. The yarn is awesome. But my sister just isn’t going to wear this shawl. She doesn’t like things wrapped around her neck and it is the wrong shape to simply wear over the shoulders. This break up is taking some time. I keep putting it off with the justification that frogging projects with stripes is a pain.

The beauty of knitting is that you can break up with your projects relatively painlessly. Yes, there is a loss of time but that loss of time would still exist if the project is completed and never used. It will just call out to you from the shelf like a bad memory.

You can give away that yarn you don’t love, someone else will. Then you can say, Let’s just be friends!

Find a more suitable pattern for that yarn and you can give it another chance.

You might be just taking a break from your current pile of WIPs. But you could also need to sit down and talk about where the relationship ie the certain WIP is going.

A break up might happen but it is nearly always for the best. In fact, I am not sure I have ever heard anyone say I wish I hadn’t frogged that project.

In case you wondering about my beautiful yarn, it is going to become a fairly plain hoodie sweater. Right now there are two pattern possibilities. The beauty is that I don’t have to swatch.

Love the PDS Worsted? See all the colors in stock here.

In other news:

There is plenty of time for you participate in the Polka Dot Sheep Yarns KAL and Contest on Ravelry. Please read the Rules and FAQs thread first. Then join in. Remember you can earn one contest entry by joining the PDS Yarns group and then posting a hello in the Chat thread. Come join in the fun!

Happy Knitting!

~Angela M.





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3 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Marlene Hamel  |  April 7, 2014 at 9:00 pm

    When something needs to be frogged,I console myself with the thought that it is just more knitting…..then it’s fine!

  • 2. Lee  |  April 8, 2014 at 2:46 pm

    Been there many times! Just frogged a new Hitchhiker shawl project that was about 75% finished because I made a mistake and made many, many more mistakes trying to pull back and pick up dropped stitches (garter stitches are a b**ch to pick up for me) so I ended up just ripping out the whole damn thing!

  • 3. Schmoopy  |  April 16, 2014 at 4:51 am

    Angela, I need to take your advice and frog sooner then I generally do. I know it’s much better for the yarn to not sit on the needles and there is a much better chance of discovering a new pattern when the yarn is already to go. Thank you for your expertise.


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